Pornography can become addictive for some individuals. Some who become hooked become aroused solely from pornographic content and real sex no longer has an effect.
Vanessa Marin and Meghan Maas of Human Development & Family Studies offer advice for watching porno videos without getting hooked on them. They suggest sites which support ethical porn production while depicting pleasure realistically.
1. Look at the camera.
No matter the intent, watching porn can be an intimate and sensual way to spend some time. But there are certain considerations before opening your laptop and starting to stream. Meghan Maas, Assistant Professor of Human Development & Family Studies at Michigan State University and licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin each provide tips for viewing in a safe way as a couple.
Location can have a dramatic impact on how a video looks. Filming in a studio provides more control over elements such as lighting, sound, and backdrop. This ensures performers feel relaxed and confident enough to deliver better performances.
Keep in mind that people involved with porn aren’t just robots – even those appearing hard can still become tired, need food or beverages breaks, or experience something unfortunate on set such as an embarrassing accident. Additionally, something unexpected might pop up that leaves everyone uncomfortable on set – as can happen during scene changes that require last-minute scene changes.
Porn is often thought of as something we do alone, but watching it with your partner can be an exciting and intimate way to bond and have fun together. Some couples use porn as an exciting pre-date activity; to ensure a pleasant and confident viewing experience for both of you, we suggest first viewing it on a laptop rather than phone; it will make navigation simpler while the larger screen may create more immersive and romantic viewing moments.
2. Make it bigger.
Pornography can make men believe that they will always receive love from women no matter what they do, creating feelings of cynicism in relationships and feelings of loneliness.
Mainstream pornography often creates unrealistic expectations about how sexual encounters should play out or what body types are most desirable, presenting only an unrealistic image of how sex should occur and body types that may not reflect reality for many people.
Men in pornography typically feature large penises that ejaculate large amounts, usually fake or rubber – though these effects can be enhanced using camera tricks to look even bigger. Their fuller bodies make these scenes all the more captivating for men – one reason they continue watching porn.
Porn can be an amazing way for couples to experiment with new positions and explore sexual kinks together, so it is key that they watch together on a laptop rather than via phone so as to have more control over what is seen and heard.
Watching porn can also help people become more accepting of themselves and their bodies. It teaches people that all women have differing bodies, which helps them realize there’s no universally perfect shape or size for every woman. Furthermore, viewing porn can encourage taking more risks in bed – whether experimenting with more intense positions such as anal or practicing BDSM (Basic Dance Support Movement). However, couples must remain on the same page in regards to expectations regarding this matter and respect each other’s boundaries when discussing this subject together.
3. Make it smaller.
Pornography websites can often be incentivised to keep nonconsensual porn and rape tapes posted because they generate more revenue from them, placing survivors of abuse at an disadvantage and violating both privacy and psychological stability.
To create a face-swapped video, Y uses math to identify each pixel that makes up each feature on an individual person’s head and eyes, then compares these features against those in porn videos and generates a preview in seconds.
This site doesn’t just swap faces; it also creates videos with body parts enlarged or shrunk down to scale, can turn people into animals, or make them look old. Before watching, just be sure your roommate is out or set a chair in front of the door to prevent anyone sneaking in unexpectedly.
4. Make it move.
With millions of hours of content online and hundreds of new shows added each week, watching porn can be an entertaining pastime with your partner. But there are certain guidelines you must abide by when viewing or selecting such material with them – Meghan Maas, PhD assistant professor in Human Development & Family Studies at Michigan State University and licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin both offer advice to ensure it goes as smoothly as possible.
They advise selecting videos from ethical production companies as everything you click is effectively voting with your clicks, supporting those who treat their performers fairly and depict pleasure realistically. Also recommended: using a laptop instead of your phone in the beginning so as to better see and navigate its screen.
Important to remember about pornography is that it only makes you feel good if your brain has been hijacked by dopamine; once this habit has taken hold it can be hard to stop. Therefore, when feeling bored or depressed it may seem like the perfect escape; but boredom and depression won’t last forever and eventually they’ll bring you back to this source of fake comfort – porn.
Pornography is filled with inappropriate encounters, body desensitization techniques and self-focused aspirational sex that rarely relates to partner’s experiences. Thus it comes as no surprise that many who engage in porn use also struggle with financial, relationship and employment issues more commonly found among men than women. Therefore it’s imperative for any woman wishing for long-term, healthy sexual partnerships to communicate to her boyfriend the impact of his pornography use, urging him to accept the challenge of deepening intimacy together.
5. Make it move fast.
Pornography may give us pleasure, but it should never replace real sexual pleasure. Studies show that frequent porn use can actually desensitize people to the sexual tension present in real-life sex and lead to erectile dysfunction.
Regular porn use has long been linked to negative feelings about love, such as feeling disillusioned with relationships or feeling like they’re stuck in one. Furthermore, regular viewing may provide sexual stimulation not met in relationships as people turn to watching porn for pleasure rather than confronting intimacy issues directly in real life relationships.
Porn may provide temporary satisfaction, but it doesn’t meet deeper spiritual needs. People who watch porn often suffer from anxiety and depression which leads to substance abuse as well as addictions such as porn viewing. They need professional guidance in overcoming these problems as well as developing healthier ways of regulating emotions.
Porn videos tend to depict women as relatively easily manipulatable beings; men can easily turn a woman on with just a few verbal prompts and make her believe they’re their one true lover, that they’ll forever adore him. Unfortunately, real women can be harder to manage; she could quickly tire of playing this role for him and abandon it sooner or later.
Maas and Marin suggest that watching porn together can add spice to a relationship, so it’s essential that couples establish ground rules and have all the appropriate equipment before beginning. They suggest selecting production companies that ethically treat performers and realistically depict sexual content; additionally they both recommend watching it on a laptop rather than phone so as to allow for easier conversation while still seeing each other while watching together.